Saturday, January 24, 2009

The Story Continues

I and my friends are continuing the storylines of our story. I am going to re-vamp the blog to make the stories much easier to follow.

As for myself, I am growing better every day.

Aiden gets frustrated when he doesn't get his way these days and will take his anger and all out on anything he sees in reach. Like he's thrown the Wii remotes, and one good example was on Wednesday, I turned the TV off so we could get to daycare and work on time and Aiden, in his frustration, threw the tv remote at the television and put a dent into the grill of the TV speaker only to put a whole into it. We haven't fixed it to remind Aiden of what he did. He did learn that when he gets angry to get his frustrations out by clapping his frustration out until he's no longer angry and calmed down. It's actually worked and we reinforce it when he does start acting up. So far he has lost his temper and acting up to just to see how far he could push our own tempers and we definitely are learning to implement punishments that are age appropriate. We don't spank, but we do make sure he knows that there are consequences to his actions.

I'm learning too not to get angry as he'll emulate the action in my tone to his own. So when he gets flippy at us, he gets the associated punishment. He's learning that he doesn't always get his way. He'll go to his room and think things through. He still won't talk to us when he knows he's gotten into trouble, but when punishment is put into place, he'll talk and answer our questions and understand the reason why he's not getting what he wants all the time. So he's developing the way he should.

We keep getting told time and time again that we should crack down on his behavior by spanking him and putting him into place. It's only crushing what independence and self esteem he's developing. I was raised under that type of punishment and now I'm learning as much as the kids do as well.

Well, I'm getting long winded now so more later, with pictures maybe.


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